What is Aspergers?
Aspergers is a person whom has an average or high IQ as well as difficulty expressing emotions and feelings and social difficulties.
What are the symptoms of Aspergers?
- difficulty in understanding humor & sarcasm
- difficulty making friends their same age
- can be an expert in one topic
- may talk excessively on a topic, without awareness if other person is interested in topic
- misses social cues
- may mimic peers social behaviors
- may mimic or repeat phrases from tv / movies
- low level of empathy
- difficulty with ‘small talk’
- lining up toys
- may be monotone, extremely loud, and frequently have minimal voice fluctuation
- strong vocabulary but very literal
- difficulty with changes in routine, or transitioning in activities
- may do repetitive motions, such as flapping hands or moving their fingers
- may have violent outbursts
- may have temper tantrums and melt downs in excess of their peers
- may be hyper sensitive to noises, lights, textures, and foods
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Do children and teens with Aspergers have feelings?
Yes! In fact those with Aspergers feel emotions more intensely than those without Aspergers. The difference is they may not know how to communicate their feelings, or may not even know how to identify them.
For someone with Aspergers they may not be able to say they are sad, because sad may be too vague. Those with Aspergers tend to be very ‘black and white’ meaning they typically view the world in extremes.
Why do they have no empathy for others?
They actually do, even though it may seem they have none. This is something that is typically difficult for a person with Aspergers to express, but can be taught!
Do they have mood swings?
Yes, sort of. Mood swings are frequently caused by feeling overwhelmed by being sensitive to noises, lights, textures and foods as well as changing in routine. They can also have mood swings due to not knowing how to communicate their feelings and thoughts.
Can they have friends?
It can’t be Aspergers, they are social and have friends!
A lot of students with Aspergers have friends! These friendships are frequently based around a common passion, like robotics or legos. Or, especially for females, they may be mimicking a lot of their friends behaviors. They can learn a lot of social skills this way.
It can’t be Aspergers, they give eye contact
This is not true- although it was part of diagnostic criteria- many people with Aspergers have trained themselves to give eye contact.
Why are they angry all the time?
A lot of times the anger they show is the result of not knowing how to share the emotions they feel. It is almost like a volcano building up with feelings and no exit plan.
Why do they act so worried?
Social anxiety or anxiety in general is very common for those with Aspergers.
But I thought it was not a diagnosis anymore
This is technically correct. Those with Aspergers may now meet criteria for Autism level 1 or Social Pragmatic Communication Disorder.
My child is not diagnosed, but I think they have Aspergers
I specialize in working with and diagnosing Aspergers. I complete a thorough assessment with you and your child before recommending a diagnosis.
Counseling works because it is tailored to your specific needs. As we discuss your concerns, we will create a plan that supports your parenting style.
Your child needs a plan that is specific to their personality. Frequently, incentives such as rewards and sticker charts do not work. Sometimes the child loses interest but frequently it is too much for the parent to keep up with. We will implement parenting techniques that work for you. Not ones you will have to remember and keep up with.
I tried counseling before, it didn’t help
I support the family in the treatment of Aspergers. I believe that true behavioral change occurs when parents are involved in treatment.
When treating Aspergers we will discuss the stages of brain development and why your child has difficulty sharing their emotions. We will discuss effective parenting strategies and how to implement them. I will teach your child how to share their feelings and reduce anger in a way that respects the family while encouraging them to show empathy. We will develop a plan with lifelong effectiveness.
Counseling provides the answers, while also providing a system that works.
If you are ready for counseling to work, and to have a more peaceful home, schedule today!