When we think about ADHD, it’s not often we also think about introversion. The two can seem to be polar opposites when considering that the most talked about/stereotypical ADHD kiddos have high energy, low impulse control, and a desire to be heard. However, when we explore the nuances of the diagnosis and what it truly means to be an introvert, the two go together better than we may expect.
Introverts by definition need solitude and low-stimulation environments in order to recharge. That’s not to say that they don’t enjoy high-stimulation environments or large gatherings, but rather that those activities are not what recharge them in their day-to-day lives.
In considering this link, we need to consider what type of ADHD our kiddos, or even ourselves, might have. For our hyperactive ADHD kids, their external behaviors may directly contradict what we consider when thinking about introversion. These outward behaviors may lead us to believe that they are extroverts, when the truth is they may be introverted and seeking calm environments in search for balance. It may be difficult for these kiddos to feel seen and get these needs met, as it can be difficult to discern from where kiddos get their energy back when their outward presentation tends to be 100% energy 100% of the time.
For our inattentive ADHD kiddos, the link may seem more natural and expected. They can easily get lost in a daydream or lost in thought, and so it may be assumed that they prefer solitude. The truth of hyperactive ADHD kiddos being introverts can also apply in the inverse here: inattentive ADHD kiddos may very well be extroverts and recharge through social interactions and connections.
In considering where on the introversion-extroversion spectrum our kiddos may lie, we can better understand what their driving motivators are and what supports may benefit them the most. We may assume our inattentive ADHD kiddos are introverts, when the truth is they need support around that executive dysfunction of inattention in order to better get their needs met. We also may assume our hyperactive ADHD kiddos are extroverts, and therefore we might set up a lot of activities and play dates for them when the truth is they’re overscheduled and overstimulated and in need of some structured solitude to recharge.