Your child is LOUD. They talk… a lot. They laugh, they are outgoing and they have so many friends. It seems as if they are always on the move. Everything should be great- but it’s not. They are struggling and it feels as if nothing is working.
Maybe they’ve already been to a therapist. They learned quite a few techniques. They talked a lot. But truthfully, it feels like nothing changed. You’re right where you started months ago. It’s almost like you’re in a loop, repeating the same ole patterns from months ago.
Or maybe you’ve considered therapy but are questioning if it would even help. Your child already tells you everything. They are pretty much an open book. You feel pretty confident that you already know what they would talk about. You’ve already given them solutions, they just have to do them.
Your child is an extrovert. They know all the right skills they just have to choose to do them. You practice, you remind them, and give them all the supplies. But, NOTHING WORKS!
At this point you feel frustrated and possibly discouraged. They keep saying “I’m trying” but let’s face it… you don’t feel they are. You don’t see any attempts. You don’t notice any change. They are still irritable, and there are still issues.
What if your extrovert is actually an introvert?
Almost EVERY SINGLE TECHNIQUE they have been taught will not work.
If you notice your child is avoiding all of the skills they’ve learned, it may actually be because they are the wrong skills.
Sometimes it takes an introvert to spot an introvert.
One of the most important skills is how to blend in and appear like everyone else. (Hint: introverts don’t like being the center of attention so will blend in. But will act like they want to be the center of attention to fit in with their peers.)
Here are some ways to recognize if your outgoing child is actually an introvert:
- They act defensive when you share stories about them. They either shut down or act made at you.
- They get angry super quickly- especially if you embarrass them.
- They have one best friend, but lots of people they claim are friends… but they don’t know much more than their name.
- They do not handle changes or transitions well!
- It seems as if they are always analyzing their surroundings.
- They really struggle when interrupted- it’s as if they clam up and have forgotten what they were saying.
- They do best when corrected privately.
- They are a ‘teachers pet.’
Although these traits do not always mean your child is an introvert, they are things to watch for just in case!
How are we different than other therapists?
We focus on introverts, because many of us are introverts! We teach skills from a different direction, so your child is more likely to grow emotionally and socially, from the inside out.